Recently our class have had a heated discussion on how middle school students should make friends.
As we all know, good interpersonal relationship plays an important role in building harmonious society.
Many people suggest that they should make friends who are of great benefit to their studies, so they will help each other and make greater progress with their studies. Some believe that they should have friends related to their life. Whenever they have difficulty dealing with problems in terms of life, they can help rid themselves of the problems. In addition, others agree that they should have some friends who can listen to them attentively and share their bitterness and joy.
What I want to stress is that each of us should have a true friend. To make friends, we should try to remember the names of the people we contact and learn not to judge people by their appearances. Besides, we need to be friendly and care about them. When disagreement does occur, it's wise of us to talk it over to others. In brief, making true friends can really enable us to improve ourselves.
No matter when and where, in no circumstances can we deny the great importance of manners.
Firstly, a person with good manners is often considered to be more trustworthy and easygoing, which helps him make more friends and get needed help from others. Besides, people are more willing to show their respect to the polite people and cooperate with them, bringing them many opportunities to change. Still most importantly, being polite helps reduce misunderstanding between people, contributing to a harmonious and enjoyable relationships.
Having good manners is regarded as an important part when judging a people whether he or she is a person of good taste, and using polite words is a sign of good manners. We use polite words in our daily life without realizing it. “please” “thank you” and “sorry” are the three words we use most frequently, which bring us magic power.
Being polite is the first and most important step to develop good relationship since polite words make it easy for people to communicate with others. Being polite show your respect to others so that they are likely to build relations with you. Always saying polite words will make others feel comfortable and repected, then when you need help they are willing to give you a hand. Moreover, using polite words can bring you friends who has the same character with you,as the old saying goes “Birds of a feather flock together”. The people around you may build a better you.
What are the most important personal traits linking to success in business? Recent research indicates that human relations are very important in business. “Integrity” and “ability to get along with others” are by far the most important success-related characteristics while “inability to understand others” and “inability to work with others” two most common failings. Luckily, human relations skills can be learned, and practice helps to improve performance.
One skill that is helpful in working with people is being able to observe accurately. Most of time, we see events around us from a very personal viewpoint. Our observations are usually laced with assumptions and inferences that distort our ability to see what is happening. Practice in accurate observation helps us to respond more appropriately to the people around us.
The second skill is listening. Listening to other is the most important skill we can learn. We can learn to hear what the other people are saying without defensiveness or judgmental attitudes. We can learn ways to respond, so that other person knows that we have heard what he or she was trying to say.
The third area for learning in human relations is assertiveness: expressing our needs, feelings and ideas clearly, but without stifling others or putting them down. Many interpersonal problems arise from our inability to say what is on our minds in a proper way that people can accept.
The fourth area related to our ability is to recognize the culturally conditioned values of people we work with, and to be able to take them into account. Especially when these values clash with our own, we need to be sensible to the implications of this conflict for our work.
People who go to a formal Western dinner party for the first time may be surprised by table manners in Western culture.Knowing them will help you make a good impression.Having good table manners means knowing,for example,how to use knives and forks,when to drink a toast and how to behave at the table.Beside your napkin you will find a small bread roll and three glasses—one for white wine,one for the red wine,and one for water.There are two pairs of knives and forks on the table,forks on the left and knives in the right of the plate.When you see two spoons,the big one id for the suop and the samll one for the dessert.The knife and fork that are closest to your plate are a litte bit bigger than the ones beside them.When you sit down at the table, you can take your napkin, unfold it and put it on your lap.In Chinese you sometime get a hot,damp cloth to clean your face and face and hands,whinch,however,is nat the custom in Western countries.
Dinner start with a small dish, which is often called a starter.Sime people pray before they start eating , and other people may keep silent for a moment. Then you can say"Enjoy your meal"to each other and everybody start eating.For the starter,which you eat with the smaller pair,you keep the knife in your right hand and the fork in your left.After the starter you will get a bowl of soup—but only one boel of soup and never ask for a seconf serving.
The next dish is the main course.Many Westerners think the chicken breast with its tender white flesh is the best part of the bird. Some people can use their fingers when they eating chicken or other birds,but never touch beef or other meat in bones.It is polite to finish eating everthing on your plate,so don't take more food than you need.
At table ,you should try to speak quietly and smile a lot,but do not laugh all the time.
Most Westerners like soft drink if they will drive home.Many of them drink white or red wine with the food.When drinking to someone's health,you raise your glasses,but the glasses should not touch. The custom of toasting in some parts of China is to finish the drink at once,but Westerners usually take only a sip.For drinking during a dinner,the best advic is never to drink too much.
Table manners change over time.They follow the fashion of the day .Beside,table manners are only important at formal dinner parties.If you're not sure what to do ,you can always follow your hosts.Although good manners always make you look good,you do not need to worry about all these rules while having dinner with your friends or family.
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